I apologize in advance for the semi-negative tone of this post. It was not intended to be that way.  Honest!

Today is the second Blogging for LGBT Families Day.  Has it been a year already since we did this?  I can’t believe all the changes we’ve had in a year.  We switched gears, going from being an actively TTC couple to becoming foster/adoptive parents.  Our dream of T being pregnant has faded, but our hopes of being parents have not.

In a year’s time, our home state has started to make great strides in equality.  Our governor has just signed the equal rights bill.  Our legislature has passed anti-bullying measures.  And our marriage-rights case has started to make progress.

But T & I, we are still officially a family of 2.  J can’t be considered “our child”.  Hopefully, we will have a child that can be “ours”.  We don’t even feel like parents at this point.  More like caretakers.  That status was made quite clear to us on Mother’s Day, when no one close to us wished us well.  Not that it matters.  Because in the end, we’re not his parents.  We’re two people who are helping raise someone else’s child.

When we do have “our child”, how will we be recognized?  As 2 females with a kid in tow?  As mothers?  As an oddity?  Or as a family?

I don’t know what the next year will hold.  I seriously hope we will expand our family.  And I seriously hope that the recognitions of all familys will also be expanded.